I wrote this three years ago, and on March 1, 2014 -- for some reason, perhaps Google searches -- it was the number one item read here. So I thought I'd give it some attention.
I'll keep this short.
I have a maxim I live by: if something you desire or rely-on continues to fail you, hurt you or inhibit you, get rid of it. The initial pain is nothing like the eventual relief. A collorary: you can't change some situations, and eventually you'll wonder why you thought you could.
I keep running into this phenomenon with Unitarian Universalists, in no small part because there's so little choice. Most areas have a single Unitarian Universalist church. There's only one functioning denomination (and a few independent movements, which I shall discuss in coming weeks) and its theological breadth seems narrower than when I joined my first church some quarter-century ago. There's an implied bargain: accept the status quo, or leave. But don't you dare make a fuss on the way out. Certainly, on the Christian end, the United Church of Christ has been the winner in that bargain.
I was a member of the Unitarian Universalist Christian Fellowship -- and this is the first time I've mentioned this in public -- because it was the only game and I had fond memories and friendships, but I let my membership lapse because its offerings were skimpy and quietist, and its direction haphazard. I let my membership in the Unitarian Universalist Ministers Association lapse because its programming was never directed toward my professional needs or station, never offered meaningful services, not to mention being shockingly expensive. And I'm more-than-usually weary of the Unitarian Universalist Association itself because it confuses busyness with services, and the current leadership -- well, some -- is engaged in a power-centralizing campaign. Monopoly, with appeals to emotional and professional dependence (perhaps not so much with the UUCF), makes for a bad bargain at the grassroots. If I hear covenant used as a coded message to clam up and step back in line, I'll scream so loud that Cotton Mather will rise from his grave. I didn't come to Unitarianism or Universalism for its threadbare institutions or the opportunity to conform.
I still think we can do better. But not if there's some existential fear that, without current Unitarian Universalist institutions -- I'm thinking of the appeals surrounding Meadville-Lombard, but not exclusively -- the whole movement will drift into the Void. Indeed, I think we would fare well without some. Call it a Lenten meditation on self-reliance, and to a degree, self-respect. We can do better.
And I gather some people have figured this out, when I read Bill Baar's comment in a recent blog post where he states that "I'm aware [that some districts] are contemplating a life post UUA." Or when I read Unitarian Universalist minister and blogger Elz Curtiss in the comment following or at her blog, Politywonk, lay out the moral and historical situation from the Unitarian side.
Just keep telling yourself we can do better and remember it needn't be with what we have now.