Legislative and court successes have expanded same-sex couples access to legal marriage; my husband and I have benefited from it. It's exciting to see the couples line up on the first "legal" day. Some of these will then get married on the courthouse steps, or some location nearby. It's particularly encouraging to see Unitarian Universalist ministers take their place there.
And these often long-awaited, but surely quickly organized weddings make a visible challenge to the now-normal way of getting married, with expensive jewelery, elaborate arrangements and a cast of thousands. I usually advise couples to elope, and these courthouse-step services look only a short step away from an elopement. Not only do I approve, but I'm glad to see the option depicted so joyously.
But then I recall another norm, or former norm: pre-marital counseling. I'm not really qualified to do it, and I'm not convinced it's necessary. So, for those few weddings I do these days, I don't offer or require it. And I wonder if that was part of the arrangement that lead a couple and minister to meet on the courthouse steps?
Do you, dear wedding officiant, offer or require pre-marital counseling? Any particular reason, either way?