So, my dear Unitarian Universalist Christians, see if this sounds familiar. You let your Christian faith be known at church or fellowship or what-have-you and someone asks "how does that work?" or "have you considered the United Church of Christ?" -- or something actively negative, suggesting that you shouldn't be there at all, as if Unitarian Universalism was a refuge for a mix of non-Christians. I thought about all of these after reading "More than just a starter church" at The Widow's Mite-y Blog. Like her, I became a Christian when a Unitarian Universalist.
Anecdotally. there's less of the overt hostility out there than there once was. Whether that's true or not, and if so, whether that's due to fewer hostile non-Christians, fewer Christians to be hostile to, or a real change of attitude is for others to discern. Plus, I'm a member of one of a handful of Christian churches in the Unitarian Universalist Association, so it's not really a problem anymore.
But what remains isn't acceptable. And it starts with the questions that together can but put under the heading, "Demonstrate that you really exist." Unitarian Universalist Christians are a small part of a small denomination, and particularly outside New England you may not meet one in person. And there is decades of preaching and identity formation -- again, especially outside of New England -- that liberal religion was becoming something greater than Christianity, first incorporating it, and later transcending it. The actual reference to Christianity in the UUA Principles and Purposes was a political process -- and a bit before my time -- and not a given. Some people really, honestly believe that Christianity is beyond the pale.
Mix this with a "question everything (that's convenient)" ethos and it's no wonder that that people, both the kind and unkind, can ask some terribly corrosive questions.
When I was younger, I felt a responsibility to spread the word and be a patient, agreeable, non-threatening, cheerful ambassador. When this did nothing than embolden the passive-aggressive, I stopped being apologetic, and started to enjoy my faith, stopping only to challenge side-lining, red-lining comments however made. (Unitarian Universalist rhetoric still distinguishes between good and bad Christians in a way that other religions aren't.)
About ten or fifteen years ago, the zeitgeist turned from defense and apology to joy, communication and personal representation. My friends and I chuckled about rueful complaints -- overheard at General Assembly and online -- about "the Christians taking over" and "the Christians being everywhere."
This change of self-conception means that I won't be told I'm welcome, but only if I act in a way others aren't expected to keep. Or if I tone it down. Or if it means answering petty, barb-filled, conspiracy-seeking questions.
I won't leave. I just won't comply. And, my dear Unitarian Universalist Christian friends, you need not comply -- or leave -- either.